Who’s the Boss: You or Your Emotions?

We’ve all had our moment in the past.

You know what I’m talking about...

That moment when you are completely filled with rage...everything slows right down...almost grinding to a halt. You might be completely still, but all you can think about is launching a chair at somebody’s head.

Well, maybe not that last part 😅, but you get the idea.

You’re so filled with anger that you’re not quite sure how to respond.

In this moment you know exactly what your body wants you to do, but you also know that if you follow that impulse, it’ll land you in some deep, deep trouble. And you don’t know whether the rational side of you could get you out of it.

Everyone has their own way of dealing with this type of moment. Some people count to ten, for others, they take a few deep breaths and others...

Well others give in, consequences be damned!

It is the inability to handle delicate moments like these that have led many to destroy opportunities, business deals, friendships, relationships, families and even lives.

After blowing up their lives, and probably lives of other people, they reflect on what they should, would and could have done, but by then it’s way too late.

They allowed themself to become entirely possessed by their emotions.  

Instead of allowing their emotions to guide them, they let it control them in the present and dictate their future. They failed to demonstrate emotional mastery.

A huge part of emotional mastery is learning how to pause in the midst of intense emotions. It doesn’t mean that you stop yourself from feeling, but it means learning how to channel your emotions appropriately.

And this requires discipline. Not just in the moment, but before AND after.

Of course, in the moment, taking a second to pause and analyse the situation is an example of exercising discipline. You are transmuting your emotional energy from anger into constructive action in a way that keeps the bigger picture in mind.

Outside of that difficult moment, you should be doing some self-reflection in order to get to the root of your emotions.

Perhaps you’ll uncover the deeper reason behind your triggers (e.g. past traumas, current insecurities) and it may lead to a greater understanding of yourself. This would hopefully mean that you would have a more logical, calm response in similar situations in the future.

Without the necessary self-reflection, anyone can press your buttons and control your behaviour.

Our emotional energy is incredibly powerful, and if we don’t quickly figure out a way to harness it, it will create more destruction in our lives than we could ever imagine.

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Want to learn more about emotional mastery?

Click here (or below) to watch my YouTube video on the Be You Channel right now, where we go even deeper on the topic of emotional intelligence and mastery AND talk about the "5 Ways Authenticity Boosts Your Emotional Intelligence".

Grab your notebook & pen ✒️ and dig in!